IT IS NOT SELFISH.

Many women has been taught their needs should be met last whether directly or indirectly, but  times are changing and women are learning their needs comes first, it is not selfish!. Women should learn to put themselves first, in the beginning every fiber of my being made me feel as if it was wrong, but as time went by it got easier. Take note, the difference when a man is sick in a household and a woman is sick, two different scenario. We are still expected to carry on as usual.

  The facts are  we can not help anyone if we cannot help our selves and if  we are not eating right, not  getting enough sleep or spending every cent earned on family, then what is left for us in the end, usually nothing and those same people are usually hard to find when you need help.

Truth is  we have to be secure in ourselves whether married or single, if not this can be a problem in every relationship we encounter.

In all things there must be a balance of giving and taking, if there are no balance then someone will end up losing and it should not be so, one should  never dim their own light to please anyone it will never be enough and any-one would lose them-self in the process.

Please forgive me (Poem)

I always thought of you like a tree trunk needing nothing or no-one. A trunk of a tree that sustains everything around it.

A trunk of a tree from which all exist and establish itself . You always stood in the midst of every storm holding up everything and everyone around you.

I never thought of you with any weaknesses, you replenish everything and everyone you are in the midst of.

I follow you  in spirals of myself I was never gifted that way.

But if everyday you draw from a well one day the well shall run dry. You are that well, who replenishes you?  Have you ever thought of it.?

You always seem to have it all together I never thought of your humanity, guess I was too busy admiring your everlasting strength.

To whom  do you run to, does your tears fall to the ground in a puddle or does it well up in your eyes?  Can you need anything or anyone?

Maybe it wouldn't hurt to need someone sometimes, or even dear to lean on someone ever so helplessly.

I wouldn't think any less of you maybe that someone could even be me.


By Paulette Bowe